Day 33: Reputation

Vocabulary.com says, ‘Your reputation is the general belief or opinion that other people have about you. If you are considered trustworthy and kind, you have a good reputation.’

In an ideal world, your reputation is an honest assessment of who you are. Learning what other people have said about you can be enlightening. Or it can be devastating. Not everyone is going to understand who you are or why you make the choices you do. At best, you can do your best, and know for yourself who you are, and what you are all about. The more clear you are on your own value as a person, the more easily you can navigate the world. Other people’s opinions of you can be good feedback that lets you know you are missing the mark or not being clear in some way.

Reputation is really about the judgments and expectation of others who have seen or heard of you but may not really know you at aoo. So, maybe the question is, what do you want people to say about you? Do you want a reputation for being gutsy? Do you want a reputation for being confident? Do you want a reputation for being helpful? Do you want a reputation for being fun? Do you want a reputation for being spontaneous?

If you purposely start leading with the things you want people to notice and appreciate about you, you might have more to say about your (good) reputation than you would otherwise imagine possible!

Adela’s Insights

Your reputation is not really within the realm of your control. It’s based on the perception of others, which makes it tricky. You can do great work in the world and still there will be people that put you down. I’ve noticed this with colleagues who’ve gotten tremendous visibility (and it’s happened in my own online events and telesummits), people will say negative things about you when it is nowhere near your actual intention and delivery.

This is more a reflection of the person, than your own ability or performance. These folks are in the minority but it can be hurtful and knock you off your center until you’re really solid on your work in the world.

By far most of the feedback I’ve had on my events has been extraordinary. That lets me know that the effort and work that I put into my events is spot on and well received. One of the greatest pleasures in meeting someone new is when they tell me they’ve heard nothing but great things about me.

When it comes to your reputation keep your eye on the prize – your own work.  It’s the only thing you can truly control or shape. Let the accolades come when they may, and don’t focus on the negative nellies. They’re probably not the folks you’re here to serve.

The Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now says, if you allow yourself to be controlled by the fear of what anyone else says or does, you have forgotten whose life you are living. If you think of your reputation as an image that others who don’t really know you, have pieced together, it’s easier to put it in perspective. The important thing is to live your life in such a way that what others say has no effect on you.

The Goddess says when you live from the heart, in the Now, decisions about how to live your life become much more clear. About that time, you may find you’ve gained a reputation for always being in the right place at the right time; or being so lucky; or having great instincts; or having a lucky star!

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing take a moment to experience yourself through the eyes of others. Feel yourself standing in the center of a circle, surrounded by those that know you. These are folks that have worked with you and have a good sense of your gifts and talents and their application. It includes bosses, mentors, colleagues, teachers, guides. Take a moment to see yourself through the eyes and hearts of each one. Notice what they say about you. Take it in and let it seep into your being until it is woven into the fabric of what you know of yourself.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Generosity and Compassion, consider your relationship to reputation. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I have a reputation . . .

People always say I’m . . . 

My reputation . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.