Secrets… we all have them, right? It’s a matter of numbers and degrees.
Most of us probably have a secret or two. And we’ve been entrusted with the secrets of others. There is a saying in 12 Step groups, “You’re as sick as your secrets.” The things you hide, or are ashamed of, create more shameful behavior. Shame-based secrecy makes liars of people.
We’re talking about something different in the 8th House. Here secrets have more to do with understanding what is or isn’t appropriate to share. The secrets in this house are about things that are deeply personal to you, like your sex life, your grief over the loss of a loved one, the conversations you have with your therapist, or health concerns and what you are doing to heal them. Having secrets doesn’t mean you can’t talk to anyone about the affairs of this house, just that you probably don’t discuss them publically. Keeping certain things private is another way of having personal boundaries.
Have you ever kept a secret? Heady stuff, right? You’re entrusted with something that feels like a powder keg. Yes, there’s tremendous power in secrets. It is information, knowledge, in the hands of the few. Sometimes there are really good reasons for that.
I used to have to keep secrets (not the good kind). Now I live in a way that the secrets are few and far between and the right people are entrusted with them. Mostly, I’m transparent in my world (unless it doesn’t serve me or others).
There IS such a thing as too much information. A scroll down your Facebook Timeline will cure you of any notion to the contrary.
You know where your secrets are safest!
One of my mentors explained boundaries in a way that works well for 8th House issues. She had a Scorpio Sun Sign and for her, all of this was familiar territory. She said that appropriate boundaries can be likened to when people knock on your door. Some never make it past the front door. Others, you only invite into your living room. Still others, you invite into your kitchen, and maybe to stay for a meal. Only a very select few will ever be invited into your bedroom, though. Those will be the people you love and trust the most.
If you look at your life as your energetic house, your boundaries, in terms of how much you share will depend on who the person is and what level of trust you have in them. Even those we are super close to don’t need to know everything about us. Sometimes someone like a therapist, who is not part of our life at all, otherwise, knows more than those who raised us. And that is totally appropriate.
Goddess Of Now
The Goddess of Now says that having secrets can be a healthy and appropriate way to conduct your life. You are unique in all the world. Not everyone is going to understand everything about you. That’s the beauty of individuality. Secrecy and discretion are often encouraged when one is exploring the deeper mysteries of life.
The Goddess tells us that in its highest form, secrecy is related to the sacred. Those things you hold sacred, deserve your respect and discretion. Mystery is sacred. So is magic. Transformation and rebirth are, too. By honoring them, you honor yourself.
[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing, consider the secrets that your body holds: the secrets that want to be known, the ones that are yours alone to know. Feel the secrets that help to sustain the fabric of your world and bless them. Release the ones who’ve served you well. Thank them and carry on. Know that you alone have the power to discern and disclose what feels right to you.[/thrive_custom_box]
Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts
Through the Goddess lens of Discrimination and Grace, consider your relationship to secrets, in whatever way they are a part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.
Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.
I’ve got a secret . . .
Secrets are . . .
My secrets . . .
Write for 2 minutes or more.