Day 24: The Gift of Relationship

A great relationship has to be among the top 3 items on anyone’s wish list. Beyond food and shelter, we all long to receive and give love (and touch). It’s just as essential as food and water. No wonder we go crazy when we don’t get this piece right!

Relationships are one of the aspects covered in Doorway 7. For our purposes, we are speaking of committed relationships, like domestic partners or long-term relationships, like best friends – those you trust and love, though not necessarily romantically.

It used to be that everyone in a long-term romantic relationship was married. These days there are a lot of different ways to do relationship, without the formal legal contract.

The difference between a 7th House relationship and a 5th House love affair is that the love affair can be deeply passionate, but it doesn’t last. The 7th House is about commitment. The 5th House love affair can evolve into a long-term marriage or relationship but many people experience a letdown, feeling ‘the honeymoon is over’, once they get into the day-to-day realities of sharing a life with someone.

Adela’s Insights

Relationships can be a difficult playground for many. I count myself among that group. As challenging as it can be it has also been a pathway to tremendous growth. No one will press your buttons more than someone you deeply care for. Perhaps that’s by design. After all, when you’re that close to someone it’s in your face and you have to deal with it. Great incentive for evolving, lol!
Though I’ve had several intimate relationships I still feel like a newbie at the relationship game. It’s one of those things I long for and have worked hard to salvage. Often I’ve made poor choices through fear or inexperience in relationships. I’m in a much better place now, much clearer on what works for me in relationship.
There are two relationships in my life that are amazing, the ones I have with my son and daughter. This I got right! It took work, yes, but it was worth every second. Is there anything better than being with someone who pulls your heart and soul strings, where connection is a poor attempt to describe the utterly amazing oneness you experience? Yes! Relationships are that amazing too.
With great risk, there is great reward! 

Jodi’s Insights

Love affairs are all about chemistry and attraction. Relationships are about two people creating a life together, which means learning to get through tough times, as well as the good, intact. Relationships ask more of us. We must rise to the occasion, put the other person first, sometimes, and stay, at times when it would be easier to leave.

In marriage, or a long-term committed relationship, the higher purpose is that each person has a mirror to reflect their behavior and challenges back to them. And the other person has agreed to stay in the relationship. Often, people get into a disagreement or misunderstanding and rather than working through it, they escalate the drama and destroy what they had. Some relationships really aren’t meant for the long haul. But some could be, if we had the wherewithal to work through our own stuff and our partner did, too.

There are certainly some people with whom we are more compatible than others. If we are wise enough to choose them, instead of the one who looks good but isn’t really available, emotionally or otherwise, you will be way ahead of the game.

Ultimately, relationship shows you who we are, in ways casual friendship or acquaintances never can. When you aren’t in relationship, you remain oblivious to your blind spots. That is, until you get into the next relationship.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now says your relationships are both a precious gift and a huge opportunity to evolve in ways that aren’t possible when you are not in a relationship. If you are enjoying single life, by all means, make the very best of it. If you choose not to be in a romantic relationship, it is beneficial to have other kinds of relationships with those who see, love and appreciate your presence in their life.

The Goddess says the love of a kindred spirit, in whatever form it comes to you, helps you to see yourself more clearly and supports you in flourishing. So many women have been afraid of really opening their hearts but when you are ready, it is your own heart that allows your life to heal in miraculous ways.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing topic take a moment to experience the Infinite Breath. Allow your breath to deepen and lengthen. Imagine that your in-breath begins to draw the first half of an infinity sign. Pause at the juncture where the lines cross and feel yourself as the physical embodiment of the intersection of matter and infinite energy. Exhale as your out-breath completes the infinity sign. Do 4 cycles of breathing, or continue breathing until you feel the outside world dim and your inner world come front and center.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Love and Compassion, consider your relationship to relationships, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.
Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

My relationship . . .

A relationship taught me . . .

Relationships are . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.