Category Archives: Doorway 8: Sex, Death & Rebirth

Day 28: Rebirth and Roar

There are moments in life when things fall apart in a big way. Though at first it might seem like the worst thing possible, with a little reflection and a little time you get to see that it’s an opportunity for a do-over, a rebirth of sorts.

If you live long enough you invariably encounter these portals of power, sometimes quite frequently. The smart thing to do when a vital vortex finds you is to open to it! It may seem natural to shut down, to resist, to refuse to entertain the notion that your world has turned upside down and things will never be the same. They won’t and that’s a good thing. You are poised at the portal of something heretofore unknown.

Rebirth is something we rarely speak of in our society, but everyone has been through it, in one way or another. Rebirth is what happens after you have been through hell and have relinquished the parts of yourself that you can no longer carry forward. This is the phoenix energy that rises from the ashes and lives a life free of the past.

There are many roads to rebirth, none of them are easy but all of them well worth whatever they cost you to get to the other side. Divorce, death of a loved one, disease, menopause, or the loss of a job will do it for many people.

You can also be reborn in a way that looks more positive but will also require giving up much of who you thought you were. Things like getting married, moving somewhere new where you don’t know anyone, beginning a new career, having a baby, or even starting your own business. Though theses events may not look or seem devastating, they will change you in ways, both subtle and glaring, that let you know you are on new ground.

Rebirth may happen suddenly or gradually. There are no hard and fast rules. Sometimes it is only in hindsight that you realize you are not the same person you were when the original event or decision occurred that put you on the path of profound transformation.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now says we are all reborn in every moment. Each breath is an opportunity to start anew. Without realizing it, you live the same moments over and over again until it seems like things never change. Open your mind and heart to the endless possibilities available to you.

You are free to change course at any time you choose. It can be as simple as taking a breath and relaxing completely into the Now. Nothing is etched in stone. It is only your habits of thought and behavior that ever make it seem like you are stuck. At the very least, you can change your mind about something, and that alone will begin to shift the energy.

The Goddess tells us that your life is meant to be fluid and flowing, and yet there are times when you can no longer continue as you were. The major turning points in your life require a release of what was, so a deeper, wiser you can emerge. Embracing the transformation allows the magic of rebirth to occur more swiftly and gracefully.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing imagine that you are Venus sprouting from the foamy sea, naked and true, hair flowing, the natural world your mantle of grace. Feel the arising of a beautiful feminine fierceness. Clothe yourself with it. Claim the clarity of this new you.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Compassion and Grace, consider your relationship to rebirth, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I was reborn . . .

I got a new lease on life . . .

Rebirth is  . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.


Day 27: Do You Want To Know A Secret?

Secrets… we all have them, right? It’s a matter of numbers and degrees.

Most of us probably have a secret or two. And we’ve been entrusted with the secrets of others. There is a saying in 12 Step groups, “You’re as sick as your secrets.” The things you hide, or are ashamed of, create more shameful behavior. Shame-based secrecy makes liars of people.

We’re talking about something different in the 8th House. Here secrets have more to do with understanding what is or isn’t appropriate to share. The secrets in this house are about things that are deeply personal to you, like your sex life, your grief over the loss of a loved one, the conversations you have with your therapist, or health concerns and what you are doing to heal them. Having secrets doesn’t mean you can’t talk to anyone about the affairs of this house, just that you probably don’t discuss them publically. Keeping certain things private is another way of having personal boundaries.

Adela’s Insights

Have you ever kept a secret? Heady stuff, right? You’re entrusted with something that feels like a powder keg. Yes, there’s tremendous power in secrets. It is information, knowledge, in the hands of the few. Sometimes there are really good reasons for that.

I used to have to keep secrets (not the good kind). Now I live in a way that the secrets are few and far between and the right people are entrusted with them. Mostly, I’m transparent in my world (unless it doesn’t serve me or others).

There IS such a thing as too much information. A scroll down your Facebook Timeline will cure you of any notion to the contrary.

You know where your secrets are safest!

Jodi’s Insights

One of my mentors explained boundaries in a way that works well for 8th House issues. She had a Scorpio Sun Sign and for her, all of this was familiar territory. She said that appropriate boundaries can be likened to when people knock on your door. Some never make it past the front door. Others, you only invite into your living room. Still others, you invite into your kitchen, and maybe to stay for a meal. Only a very select few will ever be invited into your bedroom, though. Those will be the people you love and trust the most.

If you look at your life as your energetic house, your boundaries, in terms of how much you share will depend on who the person is and what level of trust you have in them. Even those we are super close to don’t need to know everything about us. Sometimes someone like a therapist, who is not part of our life at all, otherwise, knows more than those who raised us. And that is totally appropriate.

Goddess Of Now

The Goddess of Now says that having secrets can be a healthy and appropriate way to conduct your life. You are unique in all the world. Not everyone is going to understand everything about you. That’s the beauty of individuality. Secrecy and discretion are often encouraged when one is exploring the deeper mysteries of life.

The Goddess tells us that in its highest form, secrecy is related to the sacred. Those things you hold sacred, deserve your respect and discretion. Mystery is sacred. So is magic. Transformation and rebirth are, too. By honoring them, you honor yourself.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing, consider the secrets that your body holds: the secrets that want to be known, the ones that are yours alone to know. Feel the secrets that help to sustain the fabric of your world and bless them. Release the ones who’ve served you well. Thank them and carry on. Know that you alone have the power to discern and disclose what feels right to you.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Discrimination and Grace, consider your relationship to secrets, in whatever way they are a part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I’ve got a secret . . .

Secrets are . . .

My secrets . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.


Day 26: Let’s Talk About Healing

When we speak of healing, we include mental and emotional, as well as physical health. This healing might be facilitated by any kind of doctor, practitioner and alternative healer that works for you. Sometimes, the healer is within you. Your own body is designed to heal and repair itself. Granted, there are times when it needs some assistance, but if the body isn’t involved in the healing, real health will not be restored.

There have been lots of studies and experiments documenting miraculous cures achieved with highly unconventional methods. In order for the body to heal, however, the person must somehow believe it is possible. There is the phenomenon called the placebo effect, wherein people in blind studies have received sugar pills, or even a fake surgery and had the same results, or better, than those receiving the drug or surgical procedure.

I have spent a lot of my adult life thinking and reading about healing and pursuing a healthy ideal. That pursuit taught me a lot about how to take care of myself. What I learned later was that there are some things we just have to go through, in order to heal. The healing occurs in living through the accident or dis-ease. As much as I would like to believe these things could be prevented by living well, and making wise choices, the body does have a life of its own, in many respects.

In order for healing to happen, a lot of other things have to stop. Healing requires energy and takes time. The healing process, for many people is like a death of the way they were and a rebirth into a new level of awareness of priorities and values and the miracle that is the body.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of now says us that health is wholeness and in your wholeness you find your holiness. Fear and loss, of one kind or another, are at the heart of illness and malady. There is no shame in asking for support and encouragement when you have lost your sense of well-being. Reaching out to those you trust, can break old patterns that have kept you compromised and alone. Quality connections in and of themselves can set you on a path toward resolution and good health.

The Goddess tells us all healing involves the mind, body and spirit. Whether the dis-ease or affliction is mental, emotional or physical, all must be brought back into alignment for the being to truly flourish, again. This is rebirth, when you emerge stronger and more resilient than ever before.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s topic, take a moment to connect to the cosmic healer within. Feel yourself lying in a beautiful, restorative space. You’re outdoors with tropical lush foliage all around. You are lying on a healing chamber that regulates every aspect of your being and body – physical, emotional, mental, spiritual, etheric and more. Feel each aspect as a ripple from the beyond into the physical. Feel the renewing and recalibration of everything: every cell and fiber of your essence.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Love and Grace, consider your relationship to healing, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade. Your willingness to stand in your wholeness makes all the difference.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I have healed . . .

My health returned when . . .

Healing is . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more


Doorway 8: Sex, Death & Rebirth

As we enter Doorway 8 we turn up the intensity. This house corresponds to the sign of Scorpio, ruled by the planet Pluto, Lord of the Underworld. This is where we address our relationship to transformation. Doorway 8 is where we share resources, alchemically change ourselves through healing, and our relationships become sexual. This is where we die to our old selves and are reborn. This is the house of the occult, where secret knowledge is shared. The 8th Doorway is about inheritance and taxes, too.

We cross the map, from the explorations of personal money and values, in Doorway 2, to Doorway 8 where we consider our relationship to other people’s money, and resources that are shared, whether in a marriage, business partnership or inheritance. This house is about taking the personal resources we have and making more of them, through investments, for example. This is also where we find overlooked resources that have been neglected or abandoned and restore them to value again, as in antiques or old houses.

They say death and taxes are the only sure things in life and the 8th House is where we find them both. Many of the topics in this house are not discussed in polite company. Some of these topics are considered off-limits because we were taught they are shameful. Some of them are complex, and those who don’t know what we know just wouldn’t understand.

This house includes the ways in which we transform and become more powerful.


Quotes are a great way to explore your beliefs, thoughts, and impressions. They can expand your perspective and clarify your inklings. Here are some quotes on sex, death, and rebirth to support you in considering what aspects are ready for an upgrade. You can also use these quotes to do free flow writing and see what arises.

Scared and sacred are spelled with the same letters. Awful proceeds from the same root word as awesome. Terrify and terrific. Every negative experience holds the seed of transformation.  Alan Cohen

Everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.  Oscar Wilde 

The practice of forgiveness is our most important contribution to the healing of the world.   Marianne Williamson

Questions to Explore

Take a moment to sit with the following questions. You may want to journal on them or have a discussion with a close friend. You can also just sit with the question for a bit and allow your thoughts to arise of their own accord. Sometimes asking a powerful question is enough to create a shift.

  • In what ways have you died to your old self?
  • What do you know that other people don’t understand?
  • How have you benefitted from sharing your resources with others?


Scientific Enquiry into Rebirth is Quite Possible