Category Archives: Doorway 7: Relationships & Contracts

Day 25: Sign On The Dotted Line

Contracts are one of the primary ways that we bring our energetic agreements into the world of time and space. Not only are the parties to the agreement involved, but they are affirming their commitment through a written pledge to honor a partnership where both sides benefit. It also includes the parties’ personal energy signatures.

In this final theme of Doorway 7, Contracts, for our purposes, include not only legal contracts but more casual agreements that we make with one another, as well.

You sign contracts for all kinds of things: rental agreements, sales contracts for cell phones service, and contracts for gym memberships, to name a few. You probably haven’t read all of the fine print. It can be time-consuming and overwhelming!

Contracts and agreements are something you probably don’t think too much about unless something unexpected happens and you realize you need to break them, for some unforeseen reason. That’s when you find out exactly what you have signed off on.

Adela’s Insights

For as long as I can remember I get nervous around legal stuff. I remember my first divorce. I went to court without a lawyer trusting my soon-to-be ex-husband and his lawyer. It turns out they lied to me, and trusting Adela, got screwed.

The anxiety also happened during my second divorce when my soon-to-be-ex-husband was trying to ‘convince’ me to take less money in my divorce settlement. I almost caved in, but miraculously held firm.

Later, when I found myself filing for bankruptcy the same jitters filled my body even though my case and paperwork were legitimate. The legal system unsettles me. Perhaps because I don’t trust it completely. I have had less than positive experiences.

It’s ironic that for most of my professional life I worked in law firms. I got to see the inner workings of how deals were made and unconscionable things were put into place ‘representing our clients.’ I got to the point in my life where I didn’t feel okay being a part of that world – even though I made great money and had awesome benefits. I chose to leave it. I’ve never regretted it. My life took on a truer tone.

Jodi’s Insights

I recently was on the other side, given the responsibility for writing a contract. It was interesting to research what the laws were and which things could be specified, to be clear about the ground rules.

When it comes to contracts, each party has the right to decide what they are willing to agree to and what doesn’t work for them. If you don’t like something, you can change it. At that point, it’s up to the other party to decide whether they are willing to agree to the change you made.

Contracts are written documents that spell out exact conditions, liabilities and limitations. Agreements, on the other hand, may be made verbally and only address the surface level, which sounds fine until you are under way, and realize there are unexpressed conditions and expectations… maybe on both sides.

There are also unspoken agreements, things that are assumed by one or both parties that seem to have a life of their own. You may unwittingly operate under the terms and conditions of these agreements for decades. And then one day you realize this feels compromising and doesn’t serve you.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now says your agreements, whether contractual or casual, give you access to people and resources that allow you to expand your life in ways that wouldn’t otherwise be available to you. Your contracts and agreements, when approached consciously, can be empowering and support you in having healthier, more productive interactions with others. They help create reliable structure on which you can build.

The Goddess reminds you that you are always creating your reality. And you are always evolving. As you notice you are on new ground within yourself, reviewing and updating your agreements with others, helps keep the energy fresh, alive and of benefit to all. Becoming more skillful with your agreements increases your options to include the energy and resources of others in mutually beneficial ways.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before we dive into today’s writing adventure, bring your attention to your breath – the bridge between your body and your being. Notice that you have ready access to your more expanded presence and awareness just by using your breath consciously. In this space and place where anything is possible, find your way to the Cosmic Record Hall and locate your cosmic contract for this lifetime. Notice what’s written. See if there’s anything you’d like to amend. Rescind, Revoke and Renew the ones that support you now. When you’re ready put the cosmic contract back in its place. Feel the certainty of knowing the essence of your agreements on the adventure.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Clarity and Fair Play, consider your relationship to contracts and agreements, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I honor my agreements . . . 

My agreements with . . . 

Contracts serve to . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 24: The Gift of Relationship

A great relationship has to be among the top 3 items on anyone’s wish list. Beyond food and shelter, we all long to receive and give love (and touch). It’s just as essential as food and water. No wonder we go crazy when we don’t get this piece right!

Relationships are one of the aspects covered in Doorway 7. For our purposes, we are speaking of committed relationships, like domestic partners or long-term relationships, like best friends – those you trust and love, though not necessarily romantically.

It used to be that everyone in a long-term romantic relationship was married. These days there are a lot of different ways to do relationship, without the formal legal contract.

The difference between a 7th House relationship and a 5th House love affair is that the love affair can be deeply passionate, but it doesn’t last. The 7th House is about commitment. The 5th House love affair can evolve into a long-term marriage or relationship but many people experience a letdown, feeling ‘the honeymoon is over’, once they get into the day-to-day realities of sharing a life with someone.

Adela’s Insights

Relationships can be a difficult playground for many. I count myself among that group. As challenging as it can be it has also been a pathway to tremendous growth. No one will press your buttons more than someone you deeply care for. Perhaps that’s by design. After all, when you’re that close to someone it’s in your face and you have to deal with it. Great incentive for evolving, lol!
Though I’ve had several intimate relationships I still feel like a newbie at the relationship game. It’s one of those things I long for and have worked hard to salvage. Often I’ve made poor choices through fear or inexperience in relationships. I’m in a much better place now, much clearer on what works for me in relationship.
There are two relationships in my life that are amazing, the ones I have with my son and daughter. This I got right! It took work, yes, but it was worth every second. Is there anything better than being with someone who pulls your heart and soul strings, where connection is a poor attempt to describe the utterly amazing oneness you experience? Yes! Relationships are that amazing too.
With great risk, there is great reward! 

Jodi’s Insights

Love affairs are all about chemistry and attraction. Relationships are about two people creating a life together, which means learning to get through tough times, as well as the good, intact. Relationships ask more of us. We must rise to the occasion, put the other person first, sometimes, and stay, at times when it would be easier to leave.

In marriage, or a long-term committed relationship, the higher purpose is that each person has a mirror to reflect their behavior and challenges back to them. And the other person has agreed to stay in the relationship. Often, people get into a disagreement or misunderstanding and rather than working through it, they escalate the drama and destroy what they had. Some relationships really aren’t meant for the long haul. But some could be, if we had the wherewithal to work through our own stuff and our partner did, too.

There are certainly some people with whom we are more compatible than others. If we are wise enough to choose them, instead of the one who looks good but isn’t really available, emotionally or otherwise, you will be way ahead of the game.

Ultimately, relationship shows you who we are, in ways casual friendship or acquaintances never can. When you aren’t in relationship, you remain oblivious to your blind spots. That is, until you get into the next relationship.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now says your relationships are both a precious gift and a huge opportunity to evolve in ways that aren’t possible when you are not in a relationship. If you are enjoying single life, by all means, make the very best of it. If you choose not to be in a romantic relationship, it is beneficial to have other kinds of relationships with those who see, love and appreciate your presence in their life.

The Goddess says the love of a kindred spirit, in whatever form it comes to you, helps you to see yourself more clearly and supports you in flourishing. So many women have been afraid of really opening their hearts but when you are ready, it is your own heart that allows your life to heal in miraculous ways.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing topic take a moment to experience the Infinite Breath. Allow your breath to deepen and lengthen. Imagine that your in-breath begins to draw the first half of an infinity sign. Pause at the juncture where the lines cross and feel yourself as the physical embodiment of the intersection of matter and infinite energy. Exhale as your out-breath completes the infinity sign. Do 4 cycles of breathing, or continue breathing until you feel the outside world dim and your inner world come front and center.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Love and Compassion, consider your relationship to relationships, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade.
Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

My relationship . . .

A relationship taught me . . .

Relationships are . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 23: The Power of Partnership

Partnering with others can be rewarding, challenging or somewhere in between. It is a priceless skill that can be learned and  customized to serve any arrangement, whether personal or professional. There are many ways and reasons for partnering with someone. Partnership may be a structured, contractual agreement or it can be a more casual agreement to work on a project, with a verbal understanding of who will do what and when.

Some people really enjoy partnering with others and find they do their best work when co-operating with someone who has strengths they don’t have, or even better, when they are in alignment on a greater goal. Other people, despite their good intentions, find themselves getting caught up in critiquing, comparing or competing instead of collaborating.

Partnering is a skillset that can be developed, if it is important to you. In order to be a good partner, you must know what you have to offer, what you are good at, what you are willing to do, and what you expect to gain from the partnership. When you partner with someone you respect and admire, who has skills or abilities that are complementary but different from your own, you are on the right track. Partnership is more than the simple division of labor. In a healthy partnership, the partners share the vision of what they are working to create, and practice good communication with one another.

Adela’s Insights on Partnership

For most of my life I’ve considered myself a lone ranger, strange ranger. For someone who is highly sensitive and highly aware, the world is a different place.

It was challenging for me to fit into the established cliques at school. I’ve always had a creative bent so I was in choir and the school newspaper. As an adult, I found new people very jarring and often had trouble connecting with people who talked nonsense (ho-hum bullshit). If it wasn’t real (or meaningful) I wasn’t interested. The surface, polite conversation never held much appeal.  It’s fair to say that I didn’t fit in, so much as kept myself apart. And, yes, many people thought I was stuck up. That wasn’t it. I just couldn’t relate. I’d rather be alone.

Being able to connect with my kind of people, a community of like-minded adventures was the key that unlocked the partnership door for me. I found that when I was connected to my peeps my natural gifts came to the fore. It was easy for me to be connected and curious. I went full force into online partnerships by hosting telesummits and expert interviews. I’ve learned a lot from the hundreds of partners and thousands of participants I’ve met through the events I’ve hosted. I learned a lot about partnership in a very short time!

Partnerships have also been a great clarifier in discerning my gifts and abilities. It helps me see the themes that are valuable to my community.

Partnership definitely has its rewards but it can also give you a lot to think about. You need to have clarity around the desired outcome, what you contribute as a partner and what your partner has on offer.

People have different styles of partnership and also differing expectations. My take on it is to make it easy, to make it a joy and a no-brainer for someone to say, “Yes!” to me. It’s been a wonderful way to learn about partnership and to recognize the elements that are non-negotiable for me.

This partnership with Jodi on the Goddess Revolution has been a joy! It’s ease, flow, creative sparks and flexiblity. We are both invested in the end game: getting this message of feminine power in the hands of women who are ready for it. It’s that aligned intention – together with our particular skills and talents – that make for pleasurable partnership.

Partnership is one of my personal passions (yes, I have a few) and I thoroughly enjoy playing with others who are on for the greater game of consciousness in a playful and fun fashion.

Jodi’s Insights on Partnership

When Adela and I first spoke about creating The Goddess Revolution, we were both excited about the potential we could tap into and bring to women. The more we talked about it, the more the energy expanded. I had certain pieces of the puzzle that Adela didn’t have and she had others that I didn’t have. Together, though, we knew we had everything we needed to launch this event and see it through to completion.

It wasn’t all smooth sailing. We both had a lot of other things going on as we planned and prepared for the event. We started out with one name, and ended up changing it because The Goddess Revolution better fit the event we were creating together. We took a little time to learn about each other’s work rhythms, so we could coordinate the pieces we both work on. We made our course corrections and were off and running.

I think of myself as a solo artist. I’ve been self-employed since my twenties. Partnering with Adela is a dream come true! Honestly, I am deeply grateful for this partnership. The Goddess has been whispering in my ear about bringing the things she’s been sharing with me to my sisters for a very long time. When I said I was ready and willing to do it, things took off and much to my delight, The Goddess Revolution was born!

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now has been telling me for years that women need to come together, that the time of our solitude is over. She says partnership is an excellent way for women to support one another in doing the larger works that many of you have desired but are unable to do on your own. In partnering, each woman is able to shine without the burden of carrying the entire load.

The Goddess says women have been taught to mistrust one another as a way of keeping you disempowered. As you reach out to others, and share your dreams, there will be those who are ready and willing to help you. One woman’s dream enables another woman (or man) to fulfill their own. As has been said, you don’t have to know the ‘how’. You just have to be clear on what it is you desire.

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Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Grace and Cooperation, consider your relationship to partnership, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade. Your willingness to consider partnering with another can open the door to a whole new world of fulfillment.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

Partnership is . . .

When it comes to partners . . .

I enjoy partnering . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 22: What’s Fair Is Fair

Justice and a sense of fair play are at the heart of all successful interactions. You may not consciously think in those terms, but these are the things that contribute to a free and fair society. For some people, these are major life themes, others of us take for granted that this is the way it is, and go about our business.

Adela’s Insights

Today’s topic is one where I feel that Jodi and I are twin sisters, yet again. I have a highly developed sense of fairness. I remember being a child and going to the grocery store. The elderly mom at the register would often give me the wrong change and I’d hand it right back. (The sons were often very short with her because she was slower and forgetful.)

I’d always feel this flow from my heart. Even then, I knew the feel of kindness. I’m grateful for that inner pilot light.

Jodi’s Insights

I remember, even as a child being very clear about what was and wasn’t fair. I had a strong sense that people should be treated justly. It felt really bad when someone got special treatment or got away with something I’d been punished for in the past. I believed that justice should and would prevail. Unfortunately, this was an ideal that is easier to accomplish in the abstract than in a family with parents who are already overwhelmed. I still have a strong sense of fair play and do my best to hold up my side of any bargain or arrangement I make.

Goddess of Now

The Goddess of Now speaks in terms of what is fair. When you are aligned with the truth of who you are, it is easy to make agreements you can keep. When you have doubts or conflicting priorities, it is easy to agree to something that isn’t really right for you. And then you must either do something we don’t want to do or find a way to back out and potentially let someone else down. If we want to be fair, honesty is the best policy.

The Goddess says the sooner you honor the truth of how you feel, the less upheaval and disappointment will be created. If something isn’t working for you, you can be certain it isn’t really working for the other person, either. Trust yourself to know what is right.

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Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Through the Goddess lens of Humility and Compassion, consider your relationship to justice, in whatever way that is part of your life. See if there is anything you would like to shift or upgrade. Your sense of fair play allows you to navigate the world of others with grace.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

It’s only fair . . .

My sense of fair play . . .

Justice is . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

 

Doorway 7: Partnership, Relationship & Contracts

Doorway 7 introduces us to The Other. This doorway corresponds with Libra, ruled by the planet Venus. In this house, we address our relationship to partnerships with other people and the themes that support it. This is the house of marriage, partnerships, legal contracts, commitments to others, justice and our sense of fair play.

In the 7th House, we go from the explorations and development of The Self, in the first six doorways, to interactions and agreements with The Other. This house is about committed relationships and legally binding contracts.

Here’s where all of the inner development and grounding yourself in familial foundations gets put to the test. Have you developed yourself enough to be confident in who you are and what you desire? Are you ready to commit to partnering with another, whether it be a romantic relationship heading toward marriage; or a business partnership, in which you join forces with another person to do a project or start a business?

This house is about any formal one-on-one arrangement, so services like counseling and tutoring also belong here.

Justice is a 7th House theme, so we are also considering your relationship to contracts, lawyers, and sense of fair play. Think of the statue of Lady Justice, blindfolded, holding the scales.

The planet Venus, named for the Goddess of Love, is concerned with quality, equality, refinement, and the dynamic balancing of the scales, whether of Justice or in a marriage.

Quotes

Quotes are a great way to explore your beliefs, thoughts, and impressions. They can expand your perspective and clarify your inklings. Here are some quotes on partnership, relationship, and contracts to support you in considering what aspects are ready for an upgrade. You can also use these quotes to do free flow writing and see what arises.

A solid foundation for us makes a great partner for someone else.  Serena Jade

A valid contract requires voluntary offer, acceptance, and consideration. Robert Higgs

Life is too short to waste your time on people who don’t respect, appreciate, and value you.  Roy T. Bennett

Questions to Explore

Take a moment to sit with the following questions. You may want to journal on them or have a discussion with a close friend. You can also just sit with the question for a bit and allow your thoughts to arise of their own accord. Sometimes asking a powerful question is enough to create a shift.

  • How have contracts served you in your life?
  • What do you value most in a partner?
  • What qualities do you bring to your committed relationships?

Resources

How to Build Powerful and Profitable Partnerships