Category Archives: Doorway 3: Communication & Mental Intelligence

Day 11: Early Education Foundation

Do you remember grade school? How new it all was . . . kids,  classroom, teachers? You experienced an unprecedented number of firsts. It, along with your home, was the foundation for who you believe yourself to be, how you interact with others, even your hopes, and dreams.

Your early education prepares you for life, or at least it should. When you talk about early education, it’s the primary school years. These are the years when you learn fundamental skills like reading, writing, and arithmetic. You also begin learning social skills, appropriate behavior, and manners.

This is the time when you first receive grades for your learning abilities, and competition enters your awareness. You are tested and graded on your abilities. You are compared with siblings or fellow students. You begin participating in playground games or sports during recess, too.

Some thrive in a school environment and some struggle. This early education sets the stage for your relationship with learning throughout your life. If school came easily to you, it’s likely that you have no trouble as an adult, picking up a new interest and teaching yourself whatever you need to know about it. If you struggled in school, it may mean that you naturally learn in less academic ways. Thankfully, society has now realized that there are so many different learning styles. When you honor the ways that work best for you, new information is readily and easily absorbed.

If you struggled in school, it may mean that you naturally learn in less academic ways. Thankfully, society has now realized that there are so many different learning styles. When you honor the ways that work best for you, new information is readily and easily absorbed.

A Deeper Perspective

The Goddess of Now says the days of your early education prepare you for so much more than reading and writing. They teach you about being a citizen of the world in a way your family life cannot do. They teach you about your strengths and weaknesses. They offer an opportunity to discover what you are good at and knowing that, helps you to become who you are meant to be.

The Goddess says that if you look back on those first dozen years of your life, you will see the seeds of what you were to  become. Though you may not have known it at the time, you were developing the gifts that make you the unique individual you are. The one that can do something others can’t. We all have that special something that makes us stand out, that makes other people stop and take notice. You may have peaked early, or you may be a late bloomer who is just getting an inkling of what your stand-out something is, now.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s exploration take a few minutes to relax, release and renew. Imagine that you’re floating in a pool with shimmering blue water. The sun glints off the water giving the appearance of silver sparkles arising from its depth. As you float you feel yourself encircled in an iridescent bubble. You feel warm and at ease and every breath relaxes you more and more. All the tension in your body is released and you feel alivened and invigorated.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Consider your relationship to early education through the Goddess lens of Openness and Generosity. See through the surface events to the truth of what that time was all about for you and what it taught you about yourself and your place in the world.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

My primary school days . . .

My favorite subject was . . . 

My school experience . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 10: Shift Your Mental Attitude

Your mental attitude plays a major role in the world you experience. It is the filter through which you perceive and respond to the world around you. It stands to serve that it impacts the way that you communicate. In some circumstances, your mental attitude says more than words ever could.

The Free Dictionary states . . .

Mental Attitude is a complex mental state involving beliefs, feelings, values and a disposition to act in certain ways.

Once you realize that the world around you shifts, as your beliefs, feelings, and values shift, you’ll understand that the world is a flexible reality. Things aren’t as fixed as they appear to be. As you shift, the world shifts with you. This gives you a lot more power in creating the world you envision.

I remember being a teenager and my dad telling me, it wasn’t so much what I was saying but the way I was saying it, that was going to get me in trouble. There was a lot of turmoil in my family during those years and I was in the throes of puberty and all the internal chaos the hormonal upsurge created. I remember being upset and angry a lot of the time, and it showed. Though I thought of myself as a happy person, my attitude had turned dark.

I thought it would all change, and I’d be fine, once I was out in the world on my own. It turns out changing one’s attitude doesn’t happen overnight. My self-doubt and the mental dark cloud of my teenaged years stayed with me until I finally realized I was the only one who could change it.

Changing your mental attitude requires the discipline to catch yourself when you notice that you are approaching your life as though everything is working against you, and begin to realize that the opposite is actually true. However, the only way to experience positivity is by being positive!

Find a Reason To Be Happy

The swiftest way to shift your attitude is by actively looking for the good in everything. Even the things we don’t like. Even the things that are painful or ugly or bring us to our knees.

Many years ago, there was a Unity minister who had a 6:30 AM radio program. I was a runner, in those days, and always ran with my Walkman and headphones. So every weekday morning before work, I listened to Reverend Maureen do her short, inspiring talks, as I ran. One morning her topic was a tragedy that had happened in her church. She said,

We’re going to call this good. Not because we are happy it happened or think it is a good thing. We call it good so that good can come of it. And when it does, we will recognize it.

I knew she was right. Life works in mysterious ways, and if you look back at some of the things you thought were terrible at the time, you can see that event as a turning point for something wonderful that could never have happened otherwise.

Some people seem to have been born with a sunny disposition and life smiles on them. Mental attitude is a dynamic for most people, though. The trick with attitude is to notice when life seems too heavy and consciously lighten up. You may not be able to immediately change the situation, but changing your attitude toward it will feel better and allow you to see the wisest course forward.

A Deeper Perspective

The Goddess of Now reminds you to get out of your head and into your body, into your heart, into this Now moment, any time you feel stressed or distressed. She reminds you to breathe a little deeper and offer compassion to yourself. She says that as you spend time connecting with the wise part of yourself that is always available, you become more mentally resilient.

The Goddess encourages you to trust yourself knowing that cultivating a positive mindset and attitude makes you less vulnerable, and more capable of rising to any occasion with dignity and grace.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Before you dive into today’s writing let’s take a moment to dive into your inner playground. Take a nice deep breath and close your eyes on the exhale. Relax your shoulders and open your chest. Notice the flow of your breath as it runs up and down your spinal column.

Inhale (pull the energy of the earth through your feet and out your crown)  and Exhale (pull the energy of the cosmos down your crown through your feet. Do this 3 times. On the last inhale pull from the earth and the cosmos, exhale out your heart and up over the earth blanketing it in the perfection of now. Take a few more easy breaths then open your eyes and pick up your pen.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Consider your mental attitude through the Goddess lens of Wisdom and Clarity. See your strengths and ask yourself if there is anything you’d like to tweak or upgrade. Know that you’re perfect for right now and allow for the evolution of your being.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

My attitude helps me . . .

Attitude effects . . . 

My attitude has changed . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 9: We Are Family!

Whether you grew up with siblings or not, those who shared your everyday moments at home – mostly relatives or sometimes like-family friends – helped to shape who you’ve become.

Your siblings are your first peers, often the first friends, helpers, and playmates you have. Depending on your birth order, you may have been given the responsibility of looking after your brothers and sisters, or you may be the younger one, who was looked after, bossed around, or left out of activities.

You learn a lot about relating and sociability from these early relationships. Whether you get along well or fight like cats and dogs, your siblings teach you a lot about interacting with your peers.

Let’s take a deeper look at how your sibling relationship affected your attitude and approach to your life as you grew up.

~ What is your favorite sibling memory?
~ Was there rivalry or competition between you?
~ Were you emotionally close to your siblings?
~ What did you love to do together?
~ Did you share secrets or private jokes?
~ Could you count on a sibling to be there for you if you needed help?

A Deeper Perspective

The Goddess of Now says your siblings are there to help shape your character. Though you share parents, you each play a unique role in the family, and your early interactions support you in fulfilling that role. As adults, you may find yourself forming friendships or relationships that resemble the ones you had with siblings. Some of these roles feel empowered and others can make you feel small until you start to see the roots of the behavior that began in your early life.

The Goddess says these childhood roles set the stage for who you become as you matured. In looking at your relationships with your siblings as a training ground for individuality, you can understand why you don’t necessarily agree on everything, or in some cases, anything. Each of you plays a different role that supports the dynamics of the family. As adults, you each play a different role in the family of man.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]Let’s shift awareness and attention within, connecting to the power source that fuels your being. Feel it moving through your body until it lights up every cell. Feel the space between your cells expanding, creating more space and easy movement. Allow your energy to get as big as the Earth and then beyond, all the way to the edge, approaching the unknown multiverse.

Look back and feel the vastness of You. Bring your siblings into this expansive essence that is you and them. Sense the deep heart-to-heart connection that pulls you together to know one another as siblings. Focus on the threads of Love weaving between you and creation.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Consider your relationship to your siblings through the Goddess lens of Love and Compassion. See what you learned from them and how those relationships helped make you who you are today. Notice if there is anything you’d like to upgrade about how you see or navigate those relationships.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

My siblings taught me . . .

All of my siblings . . . 

As a girl in my family . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Day 8: Communicate YOUR Way

Today, we are looking at your relationship with communication. Communication comes in a variety of forms and styles. When you think of communication you may think of speaking to someone or writing a post on social media, but good communication is an art form that includes so much more than just exchanging words. You communicate with your eyes, some of you use our hands to get a point across, even your bodies speak volumes, under certain circumstances.

Some of you are better with spoken language, others are more comfortable writing. Some of you like to get your information by listening, others prefer to read it for yourself. There are things you are comfortable sharing and those we wouldn’t dream of telling a soul.

A Deeper Perspective

The Goddess of Now says communication is multi-faceted and you have exactly the skills and abilities you need to fully express your gifts. If you have felt limited by a fear of public speaking, or poor writing skills, or are concerned about your vocabulary not being up to par, please understand that these do not have to be seen as limitations. They are actually invitations to get more creative, look for the benefits you gain, and other skills you possess that allow you to communicate in alternative ways. These are the things that bring your genius into the equation.

The Goddess reminds you that you always have what you need, in this moment, to take the next step. Once that is taken, the next step is revealed. Before you know it, you are standing on new ground, both within yourself, and in the world. While some are considered excellent communicators in a traditional sense, all true Life Artists know that there are many ways to paint a picture and tell a story.

Allow your creative juices to flow, open your mind to fresh possibilities and tell a new story about who you are and what you are here to do.

[thrive_custom_box title=”Energy Shift” style=”light” type=”color” color=”#7100e2″ border=”#1e73be”]As you prepare to write on today’s topic, first take a moment to bring your attention to this moment. Notice your breath. The coolness on the inhale, the warmth on the exhale. Feel the rhythmic pulse of your heartbeat and allow it to pulse your breath as big as the earth until you’re out at the edges of the cosmos. Feel your super connection to yourself and your interconnection with ALL of Life.[/thrive_custom_box]

Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts

Using the Goddess lens of Creativity and Possibility consider your relationship to communication. See where you feel strong and where you might like to upgrade or become more artistic in what you share.

Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.

I feel free to say . . .

I communicate freely . . .

Listening helps me . . .

Write for 2 minutes or more.

 

Doorway 3: Communication, Siblings & Education

As you step into Doorway 3, you have the benefit of having established a sense of who you are in Doorway 1, and what matters to you, in Doorway 2. Doorway 3 corresponds with Gemini, sign of The Twins, ruled by the Trickster planet, Mercury.

At Doorway 3 you begin to include other people in your equation. Here you learn more about yourself through feedback of the world around you, your immediate environment of siblings, neighbors, and school. You develop your mental attitude, learn to read, write, and communicate with others.

In the Third Doorway, you see that you are part of a bigger world, and in part, your success in the world depends on how proficient and comfortable you are with the themes housed here.

You have a unique way of communication, learning style and mental attitude that affects pretty much everything that happens with you. If you are skilled here, a lot of other things will come to you more easily. Your relationships in this area are casual, day-to-day interactions, with people with whom you are familiar.  If you got along well with siblings and neighbors as a child, you will likely find your adult relationships will follow suit.

Doorway 3 leads to an exploration of personal dynamics and is more about movement and flow than grounding. This is where you begin to share who you are and what you care about.

Quotes

Quotes are a great way to explore your beliefs, thoughts, and impressions. They can expand your perspective and clarify your inklings. Here are some quotes on communication, siblings and education to support you in considering what aspects are ready for an upgrade. You can also use these quotes to do free flow writing and see what arises.

Intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac. Timothy Leary

Real communication happens in silence.

Communication leads to community, that is, to understanding, intimacy and mutual valuing. Rollo May

Questions

Take a moment to sit with the following questions. You may want to journal on them or have a discussion with a close friend. You can also just sit with the question for a bit and allow your thoughts to arise of their own accord. Sometimes asking a powerful question is enough to create a shift.

  • What have you noticed about your style of communication?
  • How would you describe your relationship with your siblings?
  • When making decisions how do you incorporate the strengths of your intellect and intuition?

Resources

Morning Pages by Julia Cameron.

Learning Style Assessment