Self-esteem is often misunderstood. It’s not that feel-good sensation when someone compliments you. It’s not the pleasure you feel when you accomplish your goals. Self-esteem is direct knowing of your intrinsic value. There’s nothing you have to do to get it.
The dictionary defines self-esteem as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect. It is the feeling of satisfaction you have in yourself and your abilities.
Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself. If you have healthy self-esteem, you likely grew up in an environment in which your good qualities were reflected back to you, and you were met with appreciation. Most people do not have perfect childhoods. Most get a few bumps and bruises along the way. That doesn’t make you worth any less, even though you may have felt worthless, in the moment. Even if you weren’t valued at home you may have had others in your life who truly loved you and helped you cultivate good self-esteem.
Healthy self-esteem expresses in a natural confidence. It means you are aligned with your innate gifts and unique qualities. As you value yourself, your happiness, and well-being, you become more attuned to that which has value for you, in the world. Once you start to pay attention to the things that make your heart sing, you will discover even more ways to share your gifts.
The Goddess of Now Speaks Self-Love
The Goddess of Now talks about self-esteem in terms of self-love. Without self-love, the rest of the essential pieces of your personal Goddess puzzle never really fit. Generations of women were taught not to think too highly of themselves. They were told that thinking less of yourself was somehow virtuous. Some of these women were our mothers and grandmothers. They could only pass on what they knew, so a lot of us carry their false humility until we are finally able to see through it, to the truth.
The Goddess says loving and respecting yourself is vital to positively embody your feminine qualities. Without self-love and self-respect, your energetic signals aren’t clear.
~ Compassion degrades into co-dependence
~ Receptivity turns into neediness
~ Open-hearted caring becomes over-giving of ourselves and our resources
~ Inclusiveness becomes a lack of healthy boundaries
Self-love facilitates your ability to respond to ALL in ways that are appropriate, energizing and life-enhancing, for yourself and others.
Self-esteem and self-love are a big deal for all of us. They are a fundamental piece of awakening to more of who you really are. As more women rise to the occasion and show up with open hearts ablaze, everything in the world starts to change for the better.
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Creative Exploration: Writing Prompts
Using the Goddess Lens of Appreciation and Compassion, consider how self-esteem and self-love play out in your life. Please use one or more of the prompts to explore and see whether there are ways you can more fully value and embrace your uniquely wonderful self.
Pick from the following writing prompts, or create your own.
I matter because . . .
I am proud to be . . .
Self love means . . .
Write for 2 minutes or more.